Young women wear their clothes too tight, too short, or
little clothes at all. They tease men with their body and the innocent act they
put up. It is a woman’s fault that a man acts the way they do. It is their
fault that men rape. The men that rape those women are strangers.
We’ve all
heard all these accusations about rape before. If women didn’t do this, didn’t
act like that, or even said no, men would think twice before deciding to rape
them. In reality, most women who have
been raped has been done by someone they know. It is not the women’s fault that
men lose their sense of humanity and let an animal loose to prey and hunt these
women.
Society has placed the responsibility on women to get
educated about how to not get raped. They have placed this burden on women that
if they get raped it is very well likely that they did not handle the situation
correctly. Men have is easy; but why is that? Women SHOULD be educated on rape,
whether it is how to avoid these sticky situations, how to fight, or how to
cope. As it is important for women to learn these things it is also needed of
men to be educated on how not to rape. Ann Bartow posted a blog, “Sexual
Assault Prevention Tips Guaranteed to Work”, in the Feminist Law Professors on
September 16, 2009. In the blog there are tips listed on how to prevent sexual
assaults, starting with not to put drugs in someone’s drink to carrying a
whistle to give to the person you are with. Even though these tips may be
written in a sarcastic way it sure does get the point around. Not only do women
have to be careful but men also have to watch what they are doing and should be
listening to what the woman says and vice versa. When a person says no, it
means NO.
Men
tend to forget what the word no means and take it as foreplay. A woman wants it
they just don’t want to seem pushy, they think. In a television series titled A Different World, in season two-episode
twenty “No Means No”, a character named Garth had stated, “They want do it but
they just don’t want to give it up. It is our job to let them off the hook, to
let them think it wasn’t their idea.” Garth is telling one of his teammates that
woman put up a defense wall to try act innocent. Even if she is saying no and
putting up a fight, ignore it and carry on with your business. Garth proceeds
to tell his teammate, “If you want it, you got to go for it.” Men assume that
women say no to use a word in their vocabulary, many forget what that word
really means. Society tells women that saying no is enough to save them from
rape when it really is not. It is all a game until someone gets hurt or gets
thrown in jail.
Women need to get educated but so do men. This is a two way
street, not a game of the predator and prey.